Having more than one child who wants to play Mightier, or another child who is eager for screen time while their sibling plays Mightier, are realities for many Mightier families. The ideal situation is that siblings can easily take turns, cheer each other on, and navigate screen time easily. The reality, of course, is often much different. Here are some ideas from our Program Specialists and other Mightier families around navigating turn taking and fairness around Mightier screen time.
Collaborative play. Even though only one child can play Mightier at a time, a sibling who watches on the side can act as a great co-pilot. This strategy, of course, works best when siblings can remain positive and excited for one another, and be encouraging rather than critical while watching one another play. Caregivers can help model this approach by sitting on the sidelines themselves, showing excitement when the lavalings come out, and celebrating when children get back to blue.
Allow for individual play. And keep that fair. Oftentimes, children prefer to play Mightier on their own. The added pressure of having someone watch them can make it hard to focus. When this is the case, caregivers are often left in the position of needing to figure out the fair option for the child who is not playing Mightier. For some families, this means another sort of game or screen time. For others, this might mean special one on one time with a caregiver. .
Agree on the tradeoff point ahead of time. If more than one child wants a turn on Mightier, work as a team to decide on the fair tradeoff point. Is it a set amount of time? A certain number of lavaling collections? Establishing that expectation ahead of time can make the transition point a bit easier to navigate for both kids.
Friendly Competition. For some Mightier families, siblings like to get into friendly competition to encourage play. It can be a goal in an individual game, for example, ‘Get to level 20 in Kitty in the Box!’ or it can be a goal around regulation such as ‘How many times can you pause and collect a Lavaling in 20 minutes?’ Whatever the competition, ensure that siblings use encouraging words and that there are reminders that it is a friendly competition.
Shared play. If children are up for a bit of a collaborative challenge, they can actually play Mightier together. The trick to this is to have one child wear the heart rate monitor while the other plays the games. This encourages children to work together and communicate what’s happening in the game as well as what zone their heart rate is in. It also encourages them to work on calming exercises together, as it’s much easier to get to blue when your partner is helping you feel calm. With this approach, just make sure that the kids are playing on the player account of whoever is wearing the heart rate monitor.
Come up with a plan. Sometimes children struggle with sharing Mightier because they do not have clear expectations of when their turn will be. You can get ahead of this by talking about a routine that works for everyone ahead of time. Maybe one of your children plays right after school, while the other plays in the morning before school. Perhaps they play at the same time of day, but you decide upfront who will be the first to play, the second to play, and so on. It can help to get your children to be part of this process so they feel that they had some input, and therefore will likely take more ownership of the plan.